Those who take the superior position are called dominants —Doms male or Dommes female —while those who take the subordinate position are called submissives —or subs male or female. Statements consisting only of original research should be removed. In addition to "dominant" and "submissive", a "switch" is a person who can take either role. In other cases, it can be intensely physical, sometimes crossing into sadomasochism. Try to bring them happiness in ways that are not related directly to your submission.